attending shows alone

Anita Samuel samuel@CASTLE.BEAVER.EDU
Fri Feb 16 18:15:22 EST 1996

I dj and get free tickets sometimes. Since the price is right, "a girl's
gotta go where a girl's gotta go".

I sit away from the crowd, in the back or right up front.  I dress down
and wear my "I am not the one" look.  Unless I am scheduled to go
backstage or interview the artist, I leave early.

I bought a cellular phone to whip out when walking alone (fingers poised
on 911 ( SEND). Once in my car, I lock the doors and stop for nothing
that's not red.

So far, so good.
BTW, this is standard operating procedure when I go out at night for

On Fri, 16 Feb 1996, shannon oconnor wrote:

>      I'd think for the most part, men and women will answer this question
>      differently.
>      I agree with Maria.  I go alone when my friends have more important
>      things to do (like sleep).  And people do worry about me because I'm a
>      woman--and a short, blonde one at that--but they worry in their beds
>      and their houses while I'm out in the world.  Unlike Maria, though, I
>      *have* been bothered at blues shows...usually by a psycho weirdo who I
>      just know is some close relation to Jeffrey Dahmer.  Because of my
>      helpless demeanor, however (okay, Cathi, stop laughing and take a
>      d-e-e-p breath...), I can usually find someone to walk me to my car if
>      that's a worry.  Inside a public place, even among (intoxicated) music
>      fans, I could raise quite a ruckus if someone tried to mess with me.
>      While on vacation in Maine last year I went alone to a club in
>      Kennebunkport (okay, I know, not a hotbed of dangerous lowbrow
>      activities) to hear a blues act.  I sat at the bar (in a crowded room)
>      by myself and was minding my own business when a fellow tapped me on
>      the shoulder and asked if I would do him a favor.  He was a member
>      ofthe band, you see, and wondered if I would listen while they did a
>      quick sound check and let him know if the levels were okay.  What I
>      still wonder to this day was ...WHY ME???  Why not the guy on either
>      side of me?  Did I look like I'd know the difference??  (I *do* know
>      the difference obviously, but still, I *do* have this blonde thing
>      going...)  And no, it wasn't a come on; he wore a wedding ring and
>      behaved appropriately.
>      Shannon

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